Keep It Simple
It rings in my head
minimal is what they call it
yet far from negligible I admit
Now when I wake I am far from dead
Because I’ve simplified this life skit
Some tips are tough, but don’t throw a fit
Rather know now than be mislead
I’m not talking perfection, we’re all a little misfit
Remember rather now or later, in the end, we all submit
Save yourself some pain and learn while you’re ahead
Even if you’re wise and have a lot of wit
Cluttering life is like digging an endless misery pit
So be a minimalist and keep it simple instead
Keep Life Simple: A Minimalist Approach
If you are anything like me, at times life can get a little out of hand on the excessive side. Products and papers pile up on the table, an ever growing to-do list seems to get longer by the day, while all those different tasks clamor for immediate attention.
Some things we must face and deal with each and every day, like a to-do list, the laundry (hopefully not ever single day, but sure does feel like it), keeping track of finances and bills, but there are other things in life we need to simplify today. Things such as relationships in our lives.
The best lesson I have learned thus far is how to be alone and not need relationships in my life that do not make me better as a person. I see adults ranging from young to old, in unhealthy relationships that are laced with anger, grief, fighting, shame, and toxicity, yet they stay, maybe because they do not want to be alone. Life is too short, too precious, and too beautiful to spend our days bickering with someone we are not even married to! Being single, it can be tempting to hang out with every person I meet that wants to hang out, like I used to do. I know where that path leads already. It is a lonely, cold path. Most of the relationships pulled me further and further astray from my goals and dreams, just like a lot of people I see and meet these days.
Minimal toxic relationships = minimal stress = better overall life quality
Maximum healthy relationships = minimal stress + joy = better overall life quality
Don’t get me wrong here, relationships are needed and can enhance life dramatically. Unfortunately, we live in a day and age where relationships get so twisted up we don’t know whether we’re coming or going.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO HAVE TOXIC, UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.
It doesn’t matter if it is a best friend from the second grade, or a friend you just met last week, if after spending time together you feel further away from your goals or upset because of the way they treated you or something they always do that steps over your boundaries… create distance or run! I always felt like other people were my responsibility, to take care of emotionally and ensure I stayed there friend to not hurt them, but I have learned that is not my responsibility, and it is not your responsibility either. You are your responsibility. They are their responsibility. Learn to take care of yourself first, not nurture relationships that bring you harm and grief.
A Few Good Tips:
Learn to be alone. Instead of always surrounding yourself with people, purposefully spend time alone, just sitting with your own thoughts or doing something you enjoy. You will learn a lot.
Love your alone time, spend it wisely to enhance your personal life: read, draw, pray, go for a walk, exercise, cook a new food, dance, spend time with pets.
Focus on creating healthy relationships with the minimal amount of people.
If a relationship is unhealthy, figure out the best way to drop it immediately. Do not waste any more time. Not speaking to those who are married… that’s a different story.
Tackle the daily stuff, daily. If that pile of paperwork needs to be filed, file it. If the laundry needs to be put away, put it away (as difficult as that sounds, you’ll feel better, I promise). If a phone call needs to be made, make it. Tomorrow will never come. Now is the moment, now is the time!